How 2 Fish Perspectives

Under The Sun Selfish vs. Selfless By Quandi Olayinka Disclaimer: I do not write these passages to make you think the way that I think. I write to make you think and encourage conversation. I’ve heard many people say that to be selfish is to be inconsiderate, that one should put another before him/herself. I disagree with this. In order to help, give, or love another you have to be able and willing to do this for yourself. How can you be of any benefit to someone whether a friend or a sexually intimate partner if you are of no good to yourself? What is love to you? How do you show yourself love? What actions have you taken to help you enjoy a better life? What have you internally fed yourself that can encourage you to gain knowledge, wisdom, and understanding? Simply, if you do not know how to pamper yourself with the goodness and greater things life offers, how can you be able to do anything selflessly for another? Once you realize your importance and value...

Under The Sun Sleeping In My Bed By Quandi Olayinka Disclaimer: I do not write these passages to make you think the way that I think. I write to make you think and encourage conversation. I’m back! And with something juicy and even more thought-provoking! I was inspired to write this after having two lengthy conversations with a couple of friends. First, one of my friends asked me if I thought traits were learned. I feel that physical traits are more so genetically acquired, whereas, behavioral conditions are learned. I added that acquired traits would include hair, eye, and skin color, eye shape, hands and toes, and hair texture, for instance. My friend asked, “What about emotions?” This question is kind of tricky for me. It really took some thinking time for me, and although my answer may not be written in stone, it is worth giving it some thought, I think. Can children really take on the emotions of their parents? During pregnancy, a mother and fetus share the sa...

Greetings to my loyal fans! *Please forgive me. I had to get it out* Thank you so much for supporting my work! You are honest with me, and I am so grateful for that. It shows me that you care. I find it important to give back as much as I receive. I know that giving and receiving are one. I know that there is no competition, because there is enough for everyone. What the universe has for you, I cannot take it. What the universe has for me, you cannot take it. Before I ramble on, let me share something with you. As you know, Oprah is moving to "OWN" which is her "own" TV network. I am so proud of her. For the past few days, her farewell shows have aired. Because I have been so busy finishing upcoming projects, I missed the shows. Trust me, I had all intentions of watching them. Thank goodness for the creator of DVR. I was able to watch them. *So Grateful* They were so inspiring, especially, the last one. Aside from being in awe of the rose pink dress she wore, I fina...

Under The Sun Stepping Down Off Your High By Quandi Disclaimer: I do not write these passages to make you think the way that I think or know in my truth. I write to make you think and to help you develop your own truth. Stepping down off your high simply describes the movement from one realm to another. Being in the celestial realm, means that you operate in pure thought; that everything you do is preceded by a well thought out plan. Being in the terrestrial realm, means that you operate emotionally rather than logically; that you do things without thinking about it. We all step down off our high. However, it is better to always operate and surround yourself with people who operate in that higher state of consciousness. When you do fall off track, you have "that friend" to remind you of that high you're used to being on but momentarily stepped down from. Some people see this as criticism, but if the purpose is to remind you of your greatness, then what difference does i...

Under The Sun Prepare for What You Want (Inspired by Chilli from TLC) By Quandi Disclaimer: I do not write these passages to make you think the way that I think or know in my truth. I write to make you think and to help you develop your own truth. This piece was inspired by the hit reality TV show, “What Chilli Wants.” Eye was laying in bed on the Saturday morning that Chilli was to appear at a mall in Culver City, CA. The day prior eye saw her on the news promoting the product she'd be representing at the mall. The name of her show kept ringing in my head, "What Chilli Wants," "What Chilli Wants." Eye've come to the conclusion that one has to prepare him/herself for what he/she wants. For instance, Chilli is looking for "Mr. Right" according to her list of standards, which make up a good man in her eyes. To Chilli or anybody, I say prepare yourself for what you’re a...

Under The Sun Love is a Hater By Quandi Disclaimer: I do not write these passages to make you think the way that I think or know in my truth. I write to make you think and to help you develop your own truth. A wise person once said to me, “When you chase things, they will run away from you.” How many times have you found yourself listening to love songs, or singing to songs like, “F*** You, by Ceelo? And on the part of that song you can relate to the most, you sing that part the loudest wishing that the person who broke your heart could hear it? At the end of the song you ask yourself, I thought you wanted me, what happened? So many times people focus their thought on finding their mate. So much until it becomes an obsession. So much until you settle with the first thing that appears to be consistent with what you want. So much until when that person comes along, you chase him/her back out the door. You lose yourself in that person trying so hard to be the “perfect person” you think ...

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Under The Sun The IN Word By Quandi Disclaimer: I do not write these passages to make you think the way that I think or know in my truth. I write to make you think and to help you develop your own truth. The IN WORD! It is not the typical “N” Word we are used to hearing. The IN Word has an INlightening connotation behind it. Each word carries a two lettered word that has one meaning and creates one powerful impact about internal self development and healing. Words are how the universe was first created. They can create life and death. It is the objective of our company to promote a movement that creates an internal awakening. Choose your words and wear wisely. Words mean everything whether you’re sporting or speaking it. It all begins with “IN.” “Don’t allow your physical trash to interfere with your inner instructions. You’ve been Under the Sun with Quandi.” Balance in the celestial realm!

Under The Sun Where’s Your Soul Mate? By Quandi Disclaimer: I do not write these passages to make you think the way that I think or know in my truth. I write to make you think and to help you develop your own truth. Do soul mates exist? Eye ask this question, because many tend to think, yes. Eye write this article to extend the profoundness of my understanding through experience and study. In defining “soul,” I found that it confuses my thoughts. One public, reliable source regards soul to ethnicity, after death experience, and human experience. Because of the convolution, I chose to eliminate the word from my thoughts all together. In replacement, I use “compatible.” Can an individual have one or several compatible mates? Several, of course! You can be celestially or terrestrially compatible with someone, even both. Sadly, human thought has been trained to think that compatibility is an opportunity to sexually relate to ...