SLEEPING IN MY BED

Under The Sun

Sleeping In My Bed

By Quandi Olayinka

Disclaimer: I do not write these passages to make you think the way that I think. I write to make you think and encourage conversation.

I’m back! And with something juicy and even more thought-provoking! I was inspired to write this after having two lengthy conversations with a couple of friends. First, one of my friends asked me if I thought traits were learned. I feel that physical traits are more so genetically acquired, whereas, behavioral conditions are learned. I added that acquired traits would include hair, eye, and skin color, eye shape, hands and toes, and hair texture, for instance. My friend asked, “What about emotions?” This question is kind of tricky for me. It really took some thinking time for me, and although my answer may not be written in stone, it is worth giving it some thought, I think. Can children really take on the emotions of their parents? During pregnancy, a mother and fetus share the same life line. Whatever a mother experiences can have a direct affect on that fetus inside of her. Depending on what the mother engages in, could affect the fetus in how it functions on the outside of her. If you’ve ever closely paid attention to how children interact, you would’ve noticed how liberated they are socially. They do what feels instinctive to them without being influenced by the thoughts of their surroundings. They are quick to forgive. They cry to get what they want, and once they’ve achieved that, life is great for them. The way they behave (pouting, sucking their teeth, folding their arms defensively) are learned emotional behaviors. In this sense, these are inherited traits (not necessarily from a parent) only because they’ve seen/learned this type of behavior. So, are emotions really genetically inherited from our parent(s)? Maybe, the sound of your voice or how you shape your face when you’re upset resembles a parent, but actual emotions?

Can one genetically inherit their way of thinking from a parent(s)? Parents, for the most part, are the linkage to a child’s growth in society. From the way a child thinks about family to religion, a parent’s opinion is all he has during his childhood phases of growth. Is this way of thinking immutable? When I think of a genetically inherited trait, I think of a feature that is unalterable, unless a person does something surgically or chemically to enhance it. You can’t wake up one day and say, “I’m going to the bathroom to change my eye color from brown to blue.” And wearing contacts is excluded, because once you take them out, you still have your original eye color. A person’s thoughts can be changed all day long. A child can think the way their parents think until they experience life for themselves or engage socially with other people. So, are thoughts a trait that is genetically inherited?

Does any of this matter when choosing to have a baby with someone? Of course. It would seem sensible to always want the best for your unborn child. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. My friends and I got on the subject of artificial insemination vs. the natural way of conception. It was mentioned that in artificial insemination, a couple doesn’t know the man and that his bio is limited to a few lines, so a woman gets inseminated with sperm of someone she doesn’t know. I ask, “What is the difference between that scenario and having a one night stand with someone you just met at a club?” A woman (or man) can know her/his partner for five years and still not know the background of the one lying next to her. These days, I’ve seen conception planning done in the most backward ways. If a man and woman are sleeping together, there is a strong possibility that pregnancy could happen, especially without protection. Knowing this, a conversation should take place about them personally, as well as, their families’ physical health, and mental and emotional stability.

Genetic traits and behavioral patterns play a major part in child development. Meditation and patience always work before and after every situation. Know you and know the person you’re with.

Balance in the celestial realm! Don’t allow your physical trash to interfere with your inner instructions. You’ve been Under the Sun with Quandi.

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