Yes, I Cheated

Under The Sun™ 

 Yes, I Cheated

By Quandi Olayinka

Disclaimer: I do not write these passages to make you think the way I think or know in my truth. I write to make you think and to help you develop a truth that influences you to live your best life.

“Yes, I cheated,” is the line any person in a so – called monogamous relationship dreads hearing, especially if you’re madly in love with your partner. Someone asked me, “Why do people cheat”? I ask the same question, “Why do people cheat”? I could come up with dozens of reasons why, but I feel that there is one reason people either ignore or just have never given thought to; that mind wise the cheater left a long time ago but body wise still remained in the relationship. Your Inner Self hasn’t been happy for some time and your thoughts have wandered off to a happier space. And because you are currently in an unhappy relationship, you imagine being with someone who makes you feel better than you feel now. Therefore, the Universe responds to your request by bringing you happier experiences, including someone that makes you feel better than you do now.

You are feeling good in your new partnership meanwhile your old partnership is on standby. Though, you are gone from the relationship mentally, it’s still respectful to make it known to the other person that you're just not there anymore. By being honest upfront, it enables you both to make a decision to either leave or work it out. It eliminates you from being in the cheat seat. This is the part people don’t do, merely because, they want to avoid hurting their partner. But aren’t you hurting yourself if you stay when the connection is no longer there? Aren’t you important? If the connection is lost, it’s just lost. Sometimes, the connection can be restored and sometimes, not.  But you just can’t force a reconnection that may not be there like it used to. Because the natural state of a person is happiness, that’s what the Inner Self strives for. It thrives on this. It is perfectly ok to be happy, to experience love. But to experience this from your partner, you must first be it to yourself. As long as you are honest with yourself and acknowledge your thoughts and feelings, first, as they guide you to making better decisions, there would never be a reason to be in the seat of a cheater.

In this physical space, many things are taught to us that influence our thoughts on partnerships. It creates a belief pattern, which encourages the neglect against our true feelings. So, if you’re unhappy with the way your partner treats you, stay. Work it out. Besides, if you go looking for someone else, the person could turn out worse than your current partner. If the connection just isn’t there anymore, stay. It will get better. If you’re being abused, your partner was just having a bad day, stay. Go to a counselor and all will work out for the best. Better, yet, just pray. You have kids with this person. It will be difficult to do it alone. So, stay. Be patient with him [her]. He’ll [She’ll] find work soon. The economy is bad anyway. Would this be straight up rebellion against the created beliefs that leads you to cheat? Or is it that you are truly unhappy? See, your Inner Self is continuously guiding you as you are trying to figure out the best decision to make. You just have to get still and listen. You have to choose thoughts that will guide you to make the best decision for your life experience. If you are feeling worried or depressed or unhappy, you simply know this is not in the direction you should be going. These are not any characteristics of the forever loving Universe, that which brings forth abundance and pure unadulterated joy. Balance in the celestial realm!

“Don’t allow your physical trash to interfere with your inner instructions. You’ve been Under the Sun™ with Quandi.”