Perfect Relationship


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Perfect Relationship

Disclaimer: I do not write these passages to make you think the way that I think. I write to make you think.

Whoever said that there’s no such thing as perfect relationships? Let’s be clear. There are several types of relationships, although many times when the word is uttered, the first thing that surfaces in one’s thoughts is a sexual relationship. Relationships, merely, embrace friendships, mating, brotherhood, sisterhood, blood family, adopted family, etc.

A verse in the Holy Bible suggests, “Be ye perfect like my Father is in heaven.” So, why not strive for perfection in every aspect of your life, being financially prosperous, emotionally stabilized, physically fit, mentally lifted, and by maintaining healthy relationships? Being that you were created in the image and likeness of a higher power, you were already designed and destined to be worth a fortune. Anything that you choose to add to your life should only add value.

Relationships should be about fun! Point blank. You should never be in any relationship that doesn’t add to your self-worth. If you’re in a sexual relationship, for example, you should never feel like a prisoner. To call and check in with your partner is a courtesy and not a must do. It’s done because you care and don’t want the other person to worry about you. To come and go as you please should be your option. You are two adults who have chosen to share a relationship with each other. Neither of you are each other’s personal property.

The relating part of a relationship is most important. And all relationships will have what seems like imperfect, imbalanced moments. There will be times when you will not see eye to eye in your relationships, but that’s ok. Everyone was created to be unique with his/her own different viewpoints. However, approach the viewpoint with receptiveness. Hear him out. Hear her out. You may either gain some insight or at least, be enlightened enough to cope with the situation. Listening in all relationships is key. Thus, it is impossible to listen and talk at the same time and receive positive feedback to resolve an issue. Take what you can use and throw the rest out, but never dismiss it altogether. Wisdom is about experience. Experience is about opening yourself up to explore.

All relationships are about building, growth, support, love, fun, and team work. Everyone has a responsibility to bring and maintain in the relationship unit. If you fail to do this, an imbalance is created. It would always be wise to ask yourself in every instance, “How would that thing or this relationship add worth to me?” This avoids relationship pitfalls early on. Think the scenarios out in your head first, and then approach each relationship with a worthy purpose.

Adding value to your life is what I define as self worth. No matter what spiritual foundation you choose to spearhead your life (as long as it adds value), allow yourself to be immersed enough in it to where no one, not even you, will be able to question the value of your product; the product being you and your actions.

Balance in the celestial realm. Don’t invite external trash to interfere with your internal fortune. You’ve been under the sun with Quandi.

Quandi Olayinka

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