How 2 Fish Perspectives

Under The Sun Selfish vs. Selfless By Quandi Olayinka Disclaimer: I do not write these passages to make you think the way that I think. I write to make you think and encourage conversation. I’ve heard many people say that to be selfish is to be inconsiderate, that one should put another before him/herself. I disagree with this. In order to help, give, or love another you have to be able and willing to do this for yourself. How can you be of any benefit to someone whether a friend or a sexually intimate partner if you are of no good to yourself? What is love to you? How do you show yourself love? What actions have you taken to help you enjoy a better life? What have you internally fed yourself that can encourage you to gain knowledge, wisdom, and understanding? Simply, if you do not know how to pamper yourself with the goodness and greater things life offers, how can you be able to do anything selflessly for another? Once you realize your importance and value...

Under The Sun Sleeping In My Bed By Quandi Olayinka Disclaimer: I do not write these passages to make you think the way that I think. I write to make you think and encourage conversation. I’m back! And with something juicy and even more thought-provoking! I was inspired to write this after having two lengthy conversations with a couple of friends. First, one of my friends asked me if I thought traits were learned. I feel that physical traits are more so genetically acquired, whereas, behavioral conditions are learned. I added that acquired traits would include hair, eye, and skin color, eye shape, hands and toes, and hair texture, for instance. My friend asked, “What about emotions?” This question is kind of tricky for me. It really took some thinking time for me, and although my answer may not be written in stone, it is worth giving it some thought, I think. Can children really take on the emotions of their parents? During pregnancy, a mother and fetus share the sa...